The last few weeks, I have been spending more focus and energy on improving myself in the family category from Zig Ziglar’s Wheel of Life tool, specifically working on my marriage. You know how much of a challenge balancing work and personal life becomes in today’s fast paced culture. Normally, when you hear someone talk about work-life balance it is about your interests. You learn prioritizing techniques to balance all your responsibilities and so forth. I think you need to shift that focus. For you to have a happy personal life, you need to start with improving your marriage.
It is not a secret that a strong marriage builds the foundation for a successful personal life and success in business. Plus, it doesn’t get better than having a supporting spouse in your corner cheering you on to new heights.
“No amount of success will ever make up for failure in the home.”
Here I was thinking I was being a diligent husband, taking care of my family financially and by being a present dad. However, I was not investing the time or energy into my relationship with my wife. Sure, I was helping with household chores, occasionally bringing home flowers, and waking up in the middle of the night to take care of kids needs so my wife could get some needed sleep.
But I wasn’t trying to wow her. Honestly, I don’t remember the last time I tried to wow her. It’s not easy to admit, but it was a wake-up call when I realized we had turned the home into more of a work partnership than a marriage partnership.
On some level you may be able to relate…the race begins in the morning getting yourself ready for work, getting the kids ready for the day, get to work, put out work fires, get home to help the wife wrangle the kids for dinner, play with the kids, attempt to clean up the house, wrestle the kids to bed, finish cleaning up the house, sit down on the couch to watch an episode of your favorite sitcom, and finish by crawling into bed.
Where is there time to spend focusing on your spouse and improving your marriage?
7-Minute Marriage Solution
When I recognized the problem, I started to look for solutions and my tendency is to first search through books. I stopped by my local bookstore and armed with several marriage books, I started to read.
One of those books is the 7-Minute Marriage Solution!As the title lays it out, the book has the seven things to stop doing, the seven things to start doing, and the seven minutes that matter most in a marriage. Don’t be fooled that it is too simplistic of an idea. Sometimes the straightforward approaches are the best.
Here are the seven things…
The Seven Things to Stop
- Stop focusing on your husband/wife’s past mistakes.
- Stop living with unrealistic expectations.
- Stop living with jealousy and suspicion.
- Stop trying to fix your husband/wife’s weaknesses.
- Stop living in anger and resentment.
- Stop tolerating compulsions and addictions.
- Stop thinking of only your own self-interests.
The Seven Things to Start
- Start managing your money responsibly.
- Start responding romantically.
- Start expressing grace daily.
- Start focusing on fun and joy.
- Start accepting your husband/wife’s flaws.
- Start practicing your lifetime vows.
- Start showing respect for your husband/wife.
The seven minutes in your day is a commitment to a daily devotional with your spouse. This is really the heart of the book, spending time in prayer and reflection with your spouse, daily.
I would challenge you to read the book and join me in pledging to spend the next 30 days following the 7-Minute Marriage Solution plan. You don’t even need to buy anything to take the challenge because you can find the 30 daily devotions here.
Personally, I am only a few weeks in and I have already noticed an improvement in my marriage. Plus communication has improved.
Question: What do you do to wow your spouse? How do you improve your marriage? Leave your response in the comments below.
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